Beyond Awareness: Reflections from My First National Council on Severe Autism Authentic Awareness Autism Assembly

From Awareness to Action

Walking into the National Council on Severe Autism’s 2026 Authentic Awareness Autism Assembly, I immediately sensed this conference was different. Parents, family caregivers, researchers, advocates, clinicians and nonprofit leaders had gathered with a shared purpose: improving the lives of people with severe and profound autism. Many parents attended alongside their children or adult children, making the Assembly itself a reflection of the community it was designed to serve.

I attended on behalf of Autism Connection of Pennsylvania, but I also came as a parent. Although it was my first NCSA Assembly, it quickly became clear why so many families return each year. The conversations were honest, respectful, and grounded in lived experience. Rather than discussing individuals with severe autism from a distance, the conference centered on their daily lives and the families who support them.

As I listened, I found myself thinking about the conversations we have every day with Pennsylvania families. Questions about housing, adult services, staffing shortages, crisis response, healthcare, and future planning weren’t simply conference topics. They were the same challenges families bring to Autism Connection of Pennsylvania every week. The Assembly reinforced that these concerns are shared by families across the country.

Throughout the conference, one phrase appeared again and again: Authentic Awareness. It challenged participants to move beyond simply recognizing autism and instead ask a more meaningful question: What does authentic awareness require if we truly want to improve people’s lives?

Three themes emerged throughout the Assembly.

The first was recognition. People with severe and profound autism, along with the family members who often support them for decades, deserve to be fully represented in research, healthcare, public policy, and national conversations about autism.

The second was policy. Families understand where systems succeed and where they fall short because they navigate those systems every day. Speakers emphasized that effective public policy should be informed not only by research and professional expertise but also by lived experience.

Finally, there were solutions. Discussions focused on strengthening the direct support workforce, expanding housing opportunities, improving crisis services, collecting better data, and ensuring meaningful supports remain available throughout a person’s lifetime.

The Assembly reflected that progression. The first day focused on learning through presentations on research, Medicaid, workforce challenges, caregiver well-being, supported living, and advocacy training. The second day shifted from learning to action as participants traveled to Capitol Hill to meet with members of Congress and their staff. In addition to the two-day Assembly, participants took part in two two-hour virtual training sessions beforehand to prepare for congressional visits, followed by a 90-minute post-Assembly Zoom meeting to share experiences, report on Hill visits, and discuss next steps for ongoing advocacy.

For me, one presentation stood out above the rest. It didn’t introduce a new treatment or announce a major legislative victory. Instead, it focused on something equally important: the experiences of family caregivers.

Listening to Families: What the Caregiver Survey Revealed

One of the Assembly’s most compelling presentations highlighted findings from the National Council on Severe Autism’s 2025 Family Caregiver Survey, developed through NCSA’s Voices for the Voiceless legislative initiative. Conducted during August and September 2025, the survey gathered responses from 1,289 parents and caregivers representing all 50 states and Washington, D.C., providing one of the clearest national snapshots of life for families supporting loved ones with severe autism.

The findings echoed what many families already know from experience.

Most caregivers are in midlife, with nearly two-thirds between the ages of 45 and 64. Many are balancing careers, their own health, aging parents, and the lifelong responsibility of caring for a son or daughter with significant support needs. The survey underscored the importance of beginning future planning early, while parents can still help shape decisions about housing, services, and long-term care.

Housing and staffing emerged as two of the greatest concerns. Nearly 74% of individuals represented in the survey still lived at home with family, reflecting both the extraordinary commitment of caregivers and the limited availability of long-term housing options. At the same time, only 21% of respondents reported having reliable in-home staffing. Even when Medicaid services are approved, many families cannot access them because qualified direct support professionals simply are not available.

The survey also revealed the challenges families face during times of crisis. Nearly 63% reported that their loved one had experienced a behavioral or psychiatric crisis, yet many struggled to find emergency services equipped to meet the needs of individuals with severe autism. Traditional emergency settings are often not designed for autism-related communication differences, sensory needs, or complex behavioral presentations.

Perhaps the most striking finding was that 79% of caregivers had been told their loved one was “too severe” or “not a good fit” for a program or service. For many families, the greatest obstacle is not a lack of determination but a shortage of programs prepared to support people with the most challenging needs.

Future planning presented another sobering reality. Only 12% of caregivers reported having a concrete long-term care plan for their loved one. Presenters emphasized that this reflects more than personal planning. It also reflects the limited housing, staffing, funding, and service options available to families trying to prepare for the future.

More than anything, the survey reinforced why caregiver voices matter. Reliable national data helps policymakers understand not only how many families are providing care, but also the challenges they face every day. For me, the findings were deeply familiar. They mirrored the questions we hear regularly from Pennsylvania families and reinforced that these are national challenges deserving thoughtful attention from researchers, service providers, and policymakers alike.

The survey didn’t simply document problems. It helped explain why so many of the Assembly’s policy discussions focused on strengthening the systems families rely on every day.

Understanding the Policy Conversations

One of the Assembly’s most important messages was that policy is about far more than legislation. It shapes the services families can access, the support available in their communities, and the options they have as they plan for the future. Throughout the conference, speakers connected complex policy discussions with the everyday realities families experience.

A recurring theme was the importance of understanding acuity, or the intensity of an individual’s support needs. Two people may share an autism diagnosis while requiring very different levels of support for communication, daily living, behavior, medical care, or supervision. Speakers emphasized that collecting better data about those differences is essential if policymakers hope to direct resources where they are needed most.

Home and Community-Based Services (HCBS) also received significant attention. These Medicaid-funded supports help people with disabilities live and participate in their communities through services such as personal care, respite, behavioral supports, employment assistance, and community participation. Yet families often face another reality: services may exist on paper but remain difficult to access because providers lack the staffing or specialized training needed to support people with complex needs.

That challenge led to one of the conference’s central themes: the direct support workforce. Families may qualify for services, but without enough trained professionals, those services cannot become reality. Speakers stressed that strengthening this workforce requires competitive wages, specialized training, professional recognition, and long-term investment in recruiting and retaining experienced staff.

Another proposal focused on family caregivers themselves. Rather than creating a new federal program, the National Council on Severe Autism encouraged Congress to dedicate approximately $5 million of existing Autism CARES Act funding toward a comprehensive national study of family caregivers supporting people with severe autism.

Modeled after research conducted by the Elizabeth Dole Foundation on military caregivers, the proposed study would examine caregiver health, workforce participation, financial impact, long-term planning, access to services, and the specialized care families provide every day. Organizers emphasized that better information can lead to better decisions by helping policymakers understand where supports are working and where significant gaps remain.

One message stayed with me throughout these discussions: meaningful policy begins with meaningful information. Better data alone cannot solve every challenge, but it provides a stronger foundation for building services that reflect the realities families face every day.

From Conference Room to Capitol Hill

The Assembly’s second day transformed learning into action.

After spending the first day exploring research, policy, and advocacy, participants traveled to Capitol Hill to meet with members of Congress and their staff. The goal was simple: bring the experiences of people with severe autism and their families directly to the people helping shape public policy.

My first meeting was with staff from Senator John Fetterman’s office. I attended alongside Amy S. F. Lutz, Vice President of the National Council on Severe Autism. Amy shared the story of her son while I shared Eva’s story. Although our families’ experiences are different, both reflected many of the same themes discussed throughout the Assembly: the importance of dependable services, long-term planning, a strong direct support workforce, and ensuring meaningful supports continue throughout adulthood.

Sharing Eva’s story allowed me to speak not only as a representative of Autism Connection of Pennsylvania but also as a parent. For a few moments, statistics gave way to a daughter’s story, reminding all of us why those policies matter in the first place. The conversation became more than a discussion about services. It became a conversation about a real person, her daily life, her strengths, and the supports that allow her to participate in her community. The staff listened carefully, asked thoughtful questions, and created a genuine dialogue.

Later, I met with staff from Congressman Chris Deluzio’s office, where I again shared Eva’s story alongside the experiences of families who contact Autism Connection of Pennsylvania every day. Families reach out with questions about diagnoses, education, adult services, housing, respite, benefits, and future planning. The concerns discussed in Washington mirror the conversations taking place here in Pennsylvania.

Those meetings reinforced one of the Assembly’s most important lessons: research and personal stories are most effective when shared together. Data helps policymakers understand the scope of an issue, while families help them understand what those numbers mean in everyday life. Together, they create a stronger foundation for informed public policy.

Looking Ahead

Leaving Washington, I found myself thinking less about individual presentations and more about the people behind them.

I thought about parents asking difficult questions about their children’s futures, researchers working to better understand severe autism, professionals striving to improve services, and individuals with severe autism whose lives should remain at the center of every conversation.

The questions raised throughout the Assembly were the same ones we hear every day at Autism Connection of Pennsylvania.

  • How do I prepare my son or daughter for adulthood?
  • Where can I find qualified support staff?
  • What happens during a crisis?
  • How do we plan for housing?
  • Who will care for my loved one when I no longer can?

The Assembly didn’t pretend there were easy answers. Instead, it brought together families, researchers, clinicians, advocates, policymakers, and community organizations with a shared commitment to improving the lives of individuals with severe autism.

As I traveled home from Washington, I kept thinking about how closely the national conversations mirrored the questions we hear every day at Autism Connection of Pennsylvania. Decisions made in Washington shape the services available in our communities, while the experiences of local families help shape those national conversations. That connection reminds me why our work matters: helping autistic people of all ages, families, educators, and professionals find reliable information, practical resources, and the next step forward.

I am grateful to the National Council on Severe Autism for creating an Assembly that challenged participants not only to learn, but to act. As a first-time attendee, I left with a deeper appreciation for the power of bringing research, professional expertise, and lived experience together.

For me, that is what Authentic Awareness truly means. It is more than understanding autism. It is listening to families, learning from lived experience, and turning that understanding into action so individuals with severe autism, including my daughter Eva, have the opportunity to live safe, meaningful, and fulfilling lives.


2026 Autism Safety Expo

Some of the best ideas become traditions because a community embraces them. That’s exactly what happened with the Autism Safety Expo.

When Autism Connection of PA hosted our inaugural Expo last year, we hoped it would bring together families, autistic people, first responders, educators, healthcare professionals, and community organizations to share resources and strengthen autism safety. The response was overwhelming. New partnerships were formed, families discovered services they didn’t know existed, and countless meaningful conversations reminded us how much we can accomplish when we come together.

Because of that incredible success, we’re excited to announce that the Autism Safety Expo is now an annual event.

Autism Connection of PA Safety Expo logo

Please join us on Friday, October 30, 2026, from 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. at Monroeville Fire Company #4, 4370 Northern Pike, for a full day of education, practical resources, interactive exhibits, and opportunities to connect with organizations dedicated to supporting autistic people of all ages and their families.

At Autism Connection of PA, we believe safety is about more than emergency preparedness. It’s about creating communities where autistic people are understood, supported, and included. Whether you’re a family member, self-advocate, first responder, educator, healthcare professional, or community partner, you’ll find valuable information, new connections, and practical tools that can make a difference.

We invite you to save the date, share the event with others, and watch for more details in the coming weeks. We look forward to welcoming you this October as we continue building safer, more informed, and more inclusive communities across Pennsylvania, together.

Email help@autismofpa.org with questions.

Email development@autismofpa.org for sponsor and vendor information.

The 2026 Autism Safety Expo is free to attend, and no registration is required.


Traveling Together: Tips for Families of Autistic People with High Support Needs

Family vacations rarely go exactly as planned. When an autistic family member has high support needs, travel often requires even more flexibility, preparation, and patience. But that doesn’t mean meaningful travel experiences are out of reach.

In fact, some of the most memorable trips aren’t the ones where everything went perfectly. They’re the ones where everyone felt safe, supported, and able to enjoy a special moment together.

One of the most important things families can do is choose a destination that fits the person’s needs, rather than trying to fit the person into a destination. Before booking, think about what will help your family member be comfortable. Is there a quiet place to take breaks? Are familiar foods available? Will there be opportunities to rest and recover from busy activities?

For many autistic people with high support needs, the place you’re staying can be more important than the attractions you plan to visit.


Choosing a Place to Stay

When renting a home, condo, or cabin, look beyond the beautiful photos. Consider practical details such as safety, noise levels, accessibility, parking, and whether there is enough space for everyone to decompress when needed. A simple, predictable environment is often a better choice than one that is exciting but overwhelming.

Bringing familiar supports from home can also make a big difference. Items that provide comfort and routine can help reduce stress and make new environments feel more manageable. Consider packing:

  • Favorite comfort items
  • Noise-canceling headphones or sensory tools
  • Preferred snacks and drinks
  • Communication devices and chargers
  • Medications and medical supplies
  • Downloaded music, videos, or apps

These items are not extras. They are important supports that help people feel secure and regulated.


Travel Plans

Travel days themselves can be challenging. Whether you’re driving or flying, try to build flexibility into the schedule. Allow extra time, plan for breaks, and remember that slowing down is often better than pushing through. Many families find it helpful to focus less on seeing everything and more on creating a pace that works for everyone.

If you’re flying, it may be worth exploring disability supports offered by airports and airlines. Services such as pre-boarding, assistance navigating crowded terminals, and other accommodations can help reduce stress before the trip even begins.

Passenger Support | Transportation Security Administration 

For families with multiple children, it’s important to remember that siblings are traveling too. They may understand why plans sometimes change, but they still need opportunities to be included and valued.


Considering the Entire Family

Before the trip, consider asking each child what would make the vacation feel special to them. Sometimes the answer is something simple. It could be a favorite restaurant, a trip to an arcade, extra pool time, or a one-on-one outing with a parent. Protecting those moments whenever possible helps everyone feel like their needs matter.

It’s also okay for siblings to have mixed feelings. They may feel disappointed when plans change or frustrated when a situation becomes stressful. Creating space for those feelings, without judgment, helps children feel heard and supported. For some families, it works to allow the sibling to bring a friend along. When that’s not an option, there may be opportunities for one parent to visit attractions with the sibling that might be overwhelming for the autistic child.

Just as important, caregivers need support too. Managing safety, communication, routines, meals, medications, and travel logistics can be exhausting. If possible, share responsibilities, keep expectations realistic, and build recovery time into the days before and after your trip.


A Simple Message about Successful Trips

At the end of the day, success doesn’t have to mean checking every attraction off a list.

A successful trip might mean that everyone got enough sleep. It might mean finding a quiet beach, sharing a favorite meal, enjoying an afternoon at the pool, or watching a child smile during a new experience. It might simply mean that everyone felt safe, respected, and cared for.

Those moments count.

Traveling with an autistic family member who has high support needs may look different from what others expect a vacation to be. That’s okay. When families focus on support, flexibility, and connection instead of perfection, they create space for something even more meaningful, the chance to experience the world together.


Thanks to attendees and facilitators of the Caring for Loved Ones with High Support Needs group for sharing ideas and experiences. Those interested in joining this support group can visit our Events Page for registration, or email help@autismofpa.org for more information. 


Why Aliyah Rahman’s Testimony Matters

For many years, we have used a decision-making funnel – developed through our board’s strategic planning – to guide what we post, write about, and include in our publications. An article must provide hope or useful information. We do not publicize trauma, pity, or inspiration porn. We are here to serve people and live our mission as a lifeline of support, information and advocacy. Scaring people, manipulating them with pity, or exploiting people with disabilities are simply the wrong tactics for us.

As a result, our total database now includes more than 21,000 contacts, with roughly 6,500 people following us on social media and about 12,000 receiving our weekly e-blast. It is okay to grow by serving people, and that appears to be exactly what has happened.

This week’s testimony by Aliyah Rahman is an example of extreme bravery, empathy, and resolve, and needs to be heard. Aliyah is an autistic woman with a traumatic brain injury who was assaulted by federal agents in Minneapolis. Her six-minute speech is extraordinarily powerful. While she speaks about being terrorized and harmed, her primary concern is for the many people she witnessed inside an inhumane detention center who do not have her platform. Aliyah demonstrates incredible courage that provides hope while also shattering the harmful stereotype that autistic people lack empathy. That is vital information for us all.


This video includes firsthand testimony from Aliyah Rahman, an autistic woman with a traumatic brain injury, describing harm she experienced in detention. Her words are difficult, but they are shared to provide truth, information, and hope, and to amplify concern for others who do not have a platform. Please take care while watching.


We have dedicated years to working within the criminal legal system in support of people of all ages who encounter law enforcement. We have received grants focused on educating people with disabilities, including hiring Evolve Coaching to help produce the video What to Expect in a Traffic Stop. We have been invited by police departments, district attorney offices, jails, probation, parole, and other entities to provide training on supporting people with a medical diagnosis of autism.

Now, with Aliyah’s story, and the thousands of others who are caught up despite not being investigative targets, we face a conflict. How do we teach, train, support, or offer hope and information in the face of armed troops with marching orders, overwhelming power, and strong financial incentives to capture people regardless of their status? Aliyah did exactly what we teach people to do. She shouted, “I have a disability! I am autistic! I need accommodations!” and it was as if she were screaming into a void. Yes, she was later released, but the physical and emotional harm she and others experience daily cannot simply be erased. That is not how human bodies or brains work.

Through her sworn testimony, Aliyah Rahman has become the teacher, the volunteer advocate for others, and the embodiment of informed hope. We support her in spirit and hope her message helps stem the tide of violence in so many communities, and stops it before it spreads nationwide.


We are here.

If you need help, support, or connection, please reach out.

Autism Connection of PA

412-515-3938

Email: help@autismofpa.org

 


Indoor Activities for Complex Needs

At Autism Connection of Pennsylvania, we believe meaningful activities don’t have to be loud, busy, or demanding. For many autistic people, especially those with higher support needs, the most powerful experiences are the ones that support regulation, safety, and choice.

Whether activities happen in a community space, at home, or online, what matters most is that people are free to engage in ways that feel right to them. Here are some activity ideas and guiding principles that help make that possible.

Sensory Activities: Supporting Calm and Regulation

Sensory activities can help the nervous system settle. These spaces and tools are designed to be soothing, predictable, and flexible.

Think:

  • Quiet sensory rooms with soft or dim lighting

  • Bubble tubes, fiber optic lights, or projected visuals

  • Weighted blankets or lap pads for grounding

  • Soft textures to explore, like fabric, gel pads, or water beads

  • Preferred music or calming background sounds

There’s no “right” way to use sensory supports. Some people stay for a long time. Others take a quick break and move on, and that’s okay.

Creative Activities: Exploration Over Outcome

Creative activities aren’t about finishing a project or making something “look right.” They’re about exploring materials and enjoying the process.

Options might include:

  • Painting with hands, sponges, or rollers

  • Squeezing and shaping clay, dough, or putty

  • Light tables or glow-based art activities

  • Music play with drums, shakers, or chimes

Participation can look like watching, touching briefly, or repeating the same motion again and again. All of it counts.

Movement Activities: Helping the Body Feel Safe

two autistic teenagers dancing

Movement can be regulating, especially when it’s gentle and predictable.

Supportive movement activities include:

  • Slow stretching or simple yoga poses

  • Rocking chairs or supported indoor swings

  • Walking paths with clear visual cues

  • Soft obstacle courses made with mats and pillows

These activities aren’t about exercise or performance; they’re about comfort and body awareness.

Engagement Activities: Supporting Focus and Interest

Some activities help with attention and connection without requiring social interaction.

These might involve:

  • Sorting or matching favorite items

  • Cause-and-effect toys or switches

  • Simple routines done the same way each time

  • Choice boards using pictures or real objects

Familiarity and repetition can be reassuring, building trust and confidence.

Social Groups: Shared Space, Not Forced Conversation

Social groups don’t need talking to be meaningful. Often, simply being together in the same space is enough.

Small Group Options

  • Sensory play groups

  • Music and rhythm groups

  • Quiet groups built around shared interests

  • AAC-supported communication groups

Family-Supported Groups

  • Parent–child sensory groups

  • Sibling-friendly indoor play times

  • Caregiver-supported adult groups

These groups work best when expectations are low and support is built in.

What Matters Most

Across all activities and groups, a few principles make the biggest difference:

  • No pressure to interact

  • Parallel play is welcome

  • People can come and go as needed

  • All forms of communication are respected

Belonging should never be tied to behavior, speech, or participation.


Indoor Events: Predictable and Calm

Indoor events are often more accessible when they follow a clear routine and keep sensory demands low.

Ongoing Events

  • Sensory-friendly movie days

  • Open sensory gym or playroom hours

  • Quiet craft or activity times

  • Weekly clubs with the same schedule each time

Special Events

  • Sensory-friendly holiday gatherings

  • Autism-friendly expos with quiet spaces

  • Story times using objects, visuals, or AAC

  • Music or performance events designed for people with profound autism

In-Home and Virtual Options: Flexibility Matters

Not everyone can attend in person—and they shouldn’t have to miss out.

Accessible alternatives include:

  • Virtual sensory activities

  • Recorded calming routines

  • Online groups that use visuals or AAC

  • Flexible options families can use at home

Choice and access should extend beyond physical spaces.


What Makes Activities Truly Accessible

Accessibility isn’t about one feature. It’s about the whole experience. The most supportive activities include:

  • Visual schedules shared ahead of time

  • Clear beginnings and endings

  • Real choice, without pressure

  • Trained, understanding staff

  • Respect for non-speaking communication

  • No requirement to “participate” in order to belong

When we design activities this way, we create spaces where autistic people can feel safe, regulated, and genuinely included, exactly as they are.

At Autism Connection of PA, that’s the kind of connection we’re working toward every day.


Call to Action for Providers

Are you offering autism-friendly activities or support for autistic people with complex needs?
Make sure families can find you by listing your program at
autismofpa.org.

Families are actively searching for safe, accessible indoor activities for people with profound autism. Providers can help by ensuring their programs are listed in Pennsylvania’s statewide autism resource directory.

Email tammi@autismofpa.org to share your services and reach families who need them.

By listing your autism-friendly activities, social groups, or events, you help families find options that respect sensory needs, communication differences, and safety without forcing participation.

Join us in expanding access across Pennsylvania.


12 Months of April

What if April didn’t have to end? That’s the question behind 12 Months of April, a project turning autism awareness into year-round action. From creating sensory kits to connecting families and first responders with life-saving programs like Yellow Dot and Project Lifesaver, this initiative started with one parent’s mission: make safety resources known, accessible, and ready when they matter most.

The parent behind the project, Kati Maas-Crawford, shares the story behind 12 Months of April.

When Good Intentions Aren’t Enough: Lessons from Autism, Safety, and Community Programs

In November 2024, I met with my municipality to discuss programs like the Yellow Dot Program and Project Lifesaver. I followed up with emails to help supply the building with pamphlets and information. In March 2025, I read a court document labeling these efforts “gratuitous,” which was upsetting. How could programs meant to help people with special needs be seen as unnecessary, especially by a family law firm?

A week later, Victor Perez was shot and killed by police in Idaho. I wondered if resources like a premise alert or special needs registry, or de-escalation techniques I’ve used in classrooms, could have made a difference. Shortly after, RFK held a press conference on autism, sparking widespread debate that felt personal, since autism touches both my home and work life.

At the end of April 2025, a book was sent to our house “to help” our child. It wasn’t requested, didn’t focus on coping skills or sensory needs, and didn’t fully represent autistic experiences. We were initially told it came from our municipality or police department. When I raised concerns and suggested better options, I was later informed the book did not come from them, which left questions and frustrations unresolved.

Making April Last All Year

Any one of these things would create anxiety for a parent but everything quickly accumulating amplified my worries. I knew that passively observing all these problems was not an option for me. If there is a problem, you solve it. One clear problem was that there wasn’t enough awareness of these resources by families, care providers or first responders. We were deep in April, which is autism awareness month, but what happens once April is done?

You make April year-round!

I then made myself the goal of contacting all municipalities in Allegheny County within 12 months about programs that they could share with their first responder services as well as community members. Hence the name “12 Months of April.” I made a Facebook page about my goal to hold myself publicly accountable as well as promote the safety resources.

safety resources

Yellow Dot, Project Lifesaver, and Premise Alerts are free through the County and State and can make such a difference for everyone who could be involved in an emergency.

The Yellow Dot program is a yellow circle sticker that goes on your back windshield to alert first responders that someone in the car has special needs whether they be medical, physical or cognitive. A yellow pamphlet in the glove box details these needs to help first responders provide even better assistance for someone who is deaf, non-verbal, diabetic, heart condition, anything.

Project Lifesaver is a national program that is currently sponsored in Allegheny County through the DA’s office. It is a bracelet that a person wears and can be tracked through radio frequency should a person wander and does not have the means to communicate or understand where they are. This benefits those with autism as well as those with dementia or Alzheimer’s. This can help greatly reduce search time for someone which is crucial in preventing injuries or death.

The Allegheny County Premise alert is also known as the Special Needs Registry. I personally share it as a premise alert as it can help in many ways. You register with the county and then if services are dispatched to your home, police get an alert that gives them information about special needs, if the house has firearms, senior resident is on oxygen, or anything that helps prepare them.

I personally feel that the ball has been dropped, or not even picked up when it comes to promoting these programs. Information about them seems to be a reactive measure after a tragedy has happened. I would much rather be proactive. Even if one person a day learns about these things, then they can share with someone else and information will continue to ripple out.

Sensory Kits

As things were progressing, I spoke with a social worker and we discussed the cost of sensory kits. Sensory kits can retail for $50-$150 which can be hard to work into budgets. I feel that that cost is high, especially considering how much of the kit contents were sitting in a toy box at my house. I felt that something was better than nothing and started making kits.

The kit may look like a Ziplock bag of “stuff” but everything in them has a purpose. Every item in the kits reminds me of our child or my students. I made and donated a few, posted it on our page and then started receiving requests! To keep up with requests, I started posting on Facebook and talking with friends about others cleaning out their toy boxes. As things continued, it was suggested that I make an Amazon Wishlist, which people have been so generous with!

My husband and our daughter help make and deliver the kits. Our daughter is so caring about others and we are so proud of her every day! She understands what everything in the kit can help with and has explained the sensory kits in front of Fire Departments, Fraternal Order of the Police meetings and each grade at her school for their Safety Day. As my goal progressed, places were requesting that we come do a presentation about the sensory kits as well as other resources and ideas.

sensory kit helper

 

Growing the Mission: Expanding Sensory Kit Support and Community Partnerships

As this project has grown, I feel the need to keep it going and expand into neighboring counties as well as Erie county where I grew up. To support that mission I jumped through the hoops to get non-profit status to keep things accountable and ready to grow. I want to keep reaching out to different organizations about spreading information about the safety programs as well as coming together to collect items for kits, make them and then get them to first responders.

The list of people I want to thank is constantly growing and it’s almost unbelievable how supportive people have been, especially those in the community where we live. There is a man in Cranberry, Harry Rattay, who has been incredibly supportive with orders and funds and I can tell how much he loves his nephew.

We have started working with schools, Girl Scout and Cub Scout troops, American Heritage Girls, and more to collect items, create kits and donate them to first responders while children can learn more about what the first responders do. The ACLD Tilotson School in Baldwin has made 65 kits! Girl Scout Troop 16144 in Shaler has 30 kits made and they will be directly donating them to O’Hara PD, Lower Valley EMS as well as Parkview EMS and VFD.

I always say that in a perfect world, these kits wouldn’t be needed. But we all know that anything can happen and I am hoping that these kits will help First Responders assist children, those with special needs really anyone who could use some different support during a crisis. I have met so many wonderful and helpful people along the way and we find ways to help each other. Whether it is sharing posts, exchanging items, offering and receiving support, everyone has been awesome!


The 12 Months of April project has grown from creating sensory kits for local first responders to expanding into neighboring counties, partnering with schools, scout troops, and community members to collect, assemble, and distribute kits. With nonprofit status secured, the initiative continues to raise awareness, provide practical support, and build a network of caring people dedicated to helping children and individuals with special needs during emergencies. To learn more, visit 12 Months of April on Facebook.


Language Matters: Why Disability Slurs Hurt—and What We Can Do About It

Until we recognize that autistic people and people with disabilities are valuable, capable human beings, we will continue to lose words that were originally meant simply to describe a demographic. Over time, everyday language gets twisted, misused, and weaponized—turning descriptive terms into insults. When that happens, the people connected to those words become targets too.

This cycle harms more than vocabulary. It harms people.

When Words Become Weapons

Many disability-related terms began as neutral descriptions. But because our society has long underestimated, excluded, or stigmatized people with disabilities, those words often slid into the realm of slurs. We see this most clearly with the R-word—once a clinical descriptor, now a widely recognized insult.

The problem isn’t the word itself.
The problem is how our culture has treated the people behind it.

If a group is not respected, their label becomes a punchline.
If a group is devalued, their identity becomes shorthand for “lesser than.”

Autistic people and families tell us that the impact is anything but harmless.

The Real Impact on Autistic People and Families

A parent recently shared with us:

“The slur-hurling is making us (autistic people and their families) feel like we’re ‘lesser than’. We’re not seen as deserving of services or help by the general public if we’re seen as a punchline. Or worse, we’re invisible because everyone is trying to make autism look like it’s less severe than what it is. Language does matter.”

This is the lived experience behind the jokes, memes, and “I didn’t mean it that way” excuses.

Slurs do more than sting. They influence whether someone is seen as deserving of support, empathy, or even basic dignity. They shape how teachers respond, how communities include, how neighbors interact, and how policymakers prioritize services.

When people become jokes, they also become invisible.

Minimizing Autism Doesn’t Help Anyone

There’s a growing cultural tendency to soften or minimize the challenges many autistic people face. While positive stories and strengths-based perspectives are important, they cannot erase the need for support, services, and understanding—especially for those with high support needs.

When autism is treated like a quirky personality trait rather than a legitimate disability, families may encounter disbelief, judgment, or outright dismissal.

And when slurs are used casually, it reinforces the idea that autism, intellectual disability, or developmental differences are inherently negative. Or worse, something to mock.

Respect Starts With Language

Changing the way we speak is not about being “overly sensitive” or enforcing “political correctness.” It is about recognizing the full humanity of autistic people and people with disabilities.

Words can:

  • reinforce stigma

  • block access to support

  • shape public attitudes

  • affect policy decisions

  • influence how people treat one another

Respectful language creates safer and more inclusive spaces. It signals that people with disabilities are real, valued members of our communities, not punchlines, burdens, or stereotypes.

What We Can Do

Everyone plays a role in reducing harm and building a more inclusive culture. Here’s where we can start:

1. Retire disability slurs—including the R-word—completely.
Even “as a joke,” they reinforce harmful beliefs.

2. Speak up when you hear others use them.
A simple “That word hurts people. Could we choose something else?” can make a difference.

3. Learn from disabled voices.
Autistic people and their families are telling us what they need. Listening is the first step.

4. Use language that reflects dignity.
People-first or identity-first language is always better than a slur.

5. Model respect in everyday conversation.
Kids, coworkers, and community members learn from what we say.

A Community Built on Respect

Autistic people and families deserve to be seen, heard, and valued. When we change our language, we help change our culture—and we make space for understanding instead of mockery, connection instead of stigma.

Language does matter.
And so do the people behind it.

If you or your family need support, Autism Connection of Pennsylvania is here to help.